Self-Centered: the CENTERING of one’s self

The terminology of “centering” has its varying use(s) throughout our human
language, as vernacular, and its adapted forms of application. The most
prolific term – within the Westernized concept of American historiography – is
attributed towards the solicitation of being “self-centered,” in that a person,
seen as a negative concept, is completely engulfed with themselves and their achievements.
Their ideal of perfection revolves around how they conceive and perceive
themselves as the hero or main character within each event and success story of
life. By definition though, “centering” has positive and also negative – as
previously expressed – connotation(s):

>Centering framing used to support an arch or dome while it is under construction.

>Centering (psychologically speaking) a technique intended to increase and focus (center) ones attentiveness and
energy as a means to cope or postulate relief resulting from stress, anxiety,
or both. Various practices emphasize centering as a way of focusing and
processing (managing emotion) by regulating the speed and intake utilization of
breathing. (For example: meditation, yoga, etc.)

Additionally, Centering ourselves
can take on the practical effect, as a means of portrayal, in that instead of truly listening – with
care – to someone else’s actualized or lived experience, we derail or challenge
the conversation by forcibly sharing – as interjection – our own perception (as
know-how), in place or rather as replacement of someone else’s
lived-experience. This harmful refocusing has consistently been concluded as
unsolicited – respectively – and has also been diagnosed as a seeming attempt
to protect ones privilege (under the guise of revealing inferiority) by
promoting ones-self (domineering) in an attempt to feel comfortable or at ease,
as a coping mechanism. Dramatically nuanced, I want to feel better so I look to
myself – even though the self [individual having an experience] within this
instance isn’t necessarily “better.” The individual is simply painting a
portrait or playing a role of importance that might not exist outside of their
imagination of pride, verbalized as pomp, and tangibly materialized –
demonstrated – as tyranny (or despotism & autocracy).

The after effects of these
notion(s) can be surmised definitively within the jargon of oppression. Think
of it as an opinion or as the opposition
[suppressing] another forcibly to conform, based on an, initial, inability
or unwillingness to consider – correspondingly – conformity. That’s fancy talk
for an individual who has an issue with sharing. This is most prolifically seen
within multi-child families, on the elementary (and seemingly contemporary
political) playgrounds, communities, schools and utilitarian spaces – meant for
sharing – around the world. Consider the tension of not sharing, “because it’s
mine.” This centering, on display, is a revealing of one’s soul, one’s character:
who the individual really is…presently.

I can show you the world Shining, shimmering, splendid Tell me…now when did
You last let your heart decide?

I can open your eyes
Take you wonder by wonder
Over, sideways and under
On a magic carpet ride

A whole
new world
A new fantastic point of view
No one to tell us, “No”
Or where to go
Or say we’re only dreaming

whole new world
A dazzling place I never knew
But when I’m way up here
It’s crystal clear
That now I’m in a whole new world…with you


~~ Noting this sentiment
well, what keeps you centered?


 Fortuitously speaking, reality never follows a
standardized formula or format. More over, feelings – as emotion(s) – happen in
real-time, which makes their impact real and pivotally distinctive as emotional
markers and guideposts within our lives. 
I think that it is worth noting that, feelings always come before power.
The feelings of those who cultivated it – hope as power – remain as vestiges
and are remembered through feeling(s) recorded, conclusively, on the imprinted
passion of the mind, as heart, with power.
Therefore everyone receives and
has been entrusted to wield – faithfully – the portion of power that unites us
all as “One.”
Some day we will all meet our loved ones
again, whether by process of the grave or by spirit in accomplishment! How will
you face your actions, your sentiment, and your role within the limited
timespan of life in which you received? How will you face the life that you
lived, in comparison to the life in which you left for others to live, based on
the impressed passion(s) of the mind – a power dynamic remaining as a bleeding
heart? What world are you leaving for the future as progeny?  How will your life and life’s
accomplishment(s) “center” others to come? How helpful have you actually been?
What will be left unconquered; what dreams will be left as unfulfilled?

“The highest form of knowledge is empathy. For it requires us to suspend our egos and live in another’s world.” – Plato

-Guest Writer 

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